No two divorces are alike. Marriage and divorce are highly personal to the people involved. The reasons you or your spouse has decided to end your marriage come from your particular relationship and needs. Nothing can fit your experience into a neat category or trend.

Still, when researchers ask divorced people why their marriages ended, patterns emerge. Here are six of the most common causes of divorce, both here in Iredell County and across the country.

Communication breakdown

Every couple has disagreements. But if you and your spouse cannot communicate with each other, these conflicts will not be resolved and grow worse.

Disconnection

Many people report that they no longer felt they were in a partnership with their ex. Maybe their feelings toward their spouse changed, or they feel no emotional connection with them anymore. In other cases, they did not feel the emotional support from their ex that they needed.

Lack of intimacy

In many couples, the spouses have different interest levels in sex and physical intimacy. This can lead to serious marital problems.

Addiction

A drug, alcohol or gambling addiction can ruin a marriage.

Domestic violence

Many spouses say that violence, sexual abuse or threats from their spouse was the reason they left

Infidelity

Learning that their spouse has cheated on them is a major motivator for divorce.

Because North Carolina has adopted no-fault divorce, you do not need to give the court a specific reason for wanting to dissolve your marriage other than the breakdown of the relationship. Nor do you have to prove that your spouse caused the divorce. The modern approach to divorce has made ending a marriage easier.

Find out what you need to know about divorce

If you are thinking about divorce, the first thing you should do is talk to an experienced divorce attorney, to learn more about the process and what your rights are.